It isn’t just another year closing in on us but an entire DECADE. This being the decade of getting very acquainted with my 40’s, I’ve been thinking a lot about how the years build and then wash over us like a smashing wave. It’s interesting how we package time - and even more sobering to know there’s no way to dodge it.

I’ve been looking at the various goal and task management tools out there as a way to give me a sense of control over this next wave. Rather than list all I’m planning or intending to tackle in 2020 (‘cause that seems like a lot of pressure), I’ve been reflecting on what I’ve learned through my own winding road of experience this past decade. Here are my humble year by year bits of wisdom:

LESSON OF 2010: That which comes easy can easily leave you wanting more - Be watchful of temptation.

LESSON OF 2011: Lackluster feedback is a prompt for you to take a closer look at what you’re doing - take all feedback under consideration.

LESSON OF 2012: Not making a decision is a decision - think carefully about what you don’t decide.

LESSON OF 2013: If you’re going to have a party - have a damn good one.

LESSON OF 2014: You can still celebrate something good while the rest of your world crumbles around you - don’t let the tough stuff snuff out the light.

LESSON OF 2015: When things as you know it are shaken up, you’ll find a way to adjust to the new normal - just give it a minute.

LESSON OF 2016: Don’t force what doesn’t fit - best to move on.

LESSON OF 2017: Branching out to work for yourself teaches you a lot about your values - pay attention to what matters most to you.

LESSON OF 2018: Continuing your education is always a good idea - you’ll learn more than what you signed up for.

LESSON OF 2019: Don’t let your assumptions of what other people think dictate what you choose to do or how you choose to do it - nobody really cares.

I remember someone telling me last decade that the years pass by faster and faster as we get older. No matter how time is measured, it keeps on flowing, taking us along with it. And there are only so many decades in a lifetime. Yet so much to learn.